Aliens and Openers

It’s been a few weeks since I returned from a trip with Neil and a few of his friends from The Society. During our journey through the southwest, the guys role-played that they were part of a clandestine organization that dealt with uncovering alien invaders — an organization called S.M.I.L.E. Each person on the trip received a box of personalized S.M.I.L.E. business cards and a mission: Get … Read More

The Canned Material Controversy

It might surprise you, but everyone, everyday, uses canned material. Most people just aren’t aware of it. People who preach an entirely improvised style tend to stick to the most common conversational threads in the world — they are, ironically, entirely predictable. For example: “Hi,” is the most common opener in the world with common canned follow-up questions like, “Where are you from?” “What’s your … Read More

Why You’re Not Getting Attraction

Are You Really Practicing Social Skills? Today we want to you answer these four questions that will help you with your practice. Is your practice unfocused? Communication is a skill. Like any skill-set, there are drills and techniques that help you learn the universal principles of the art form. One of the most common pitfalls students run into is practicing without a focus on … Read More

Breaking Down A Night As A Wingman

How A Great Wingman Will Break it Down: A few weeks ago, I was out with my friend Alex. He is a single, well put together, and is a practiced conversationalist. Since I’m in a relationship, I’ll be his wingman for the night. I thought it might be helpful to lay out some of the moments from the night, regarding … Read More

Storytelling Like A Pro

Have you ever been to a party where there was some person who was soaking up all the attention in the room just by telling a few stories? A person who captivated audiences at social events with a few details about their lives? Ever wondered how you could tell stories that have the same effect? The answer: Practice your stories. Everyone has … Read More

What To Do After The Opener

The principle behind starting a conversation is to make the group comfortable, but once they’re comfortable, what comes next? The answer is simple – ask a question or make an observation. It’s called bridging, and it’s a skill that anyone working on improving their social skills should be comfortable with. The Bridge Technique: A bridge is a way to propel … Read More

Is Being Alone Bad For Your Health?

As a dating coach, the issue of loneliness is one that comes up a lot. The only remedy is a combination of getting out there, facing your fears, talking to new people, building memories, having adventures and cultivating friendships. That said, we don’t often talk about the subject of loneliness in detail. So, let’s stop ignoring this issue and take … Read More

The Link Between Likeability And The Social Matrix

You’re here because you sense something. What you sense you can’t explain, but you feel it. You’ve felt as long as you can remember, some people have an advantage over everyone else. You don’t know exactly why, but it’s there, some force is at play. The force is likeability. Being a well-liked person opens doors and opportunities within the social … Read More

Scripted Material and Authenticity In Social Situations

Recently Neil has been stressing the importance of core values, or what we refer to as your Inner Game. The new Stylelife teaches these core values that can radically change all aspects of your life and make you a much more attractive person to others. He has even challenged all of us here at Stylelife to discuss our personal core … Read More

2 Things That Make You Look Extra Attractive

As you know, your clothes speak volumes, because what you wear is an extension of your identity, and that affects your personal attractiveness to the opposite sex. The right outfit can have people coming up to you without a word and engaging in conversations. It’s almost like magic. For those of us in the northern hemisphere, the winter weather is … Read More