Your Personal Approach Anxiety Remedy

A few days ago I was meeting with a friend who was dealing with some seriously bad approach  anxiety. I wanted to know what he’d done to try and solve this problem. He said, he’d tried the three–second–rule, but it wasn’t working for him. I asked him exactly how he felt when he wanted to approach, and it turns out that the step itself … Read More

The Ben Franklin Effect

There’s an old maxim saying, “He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another become than he whom you yourself have obliged.” Last email, In our exploration of Reciprocation, we imagined a person failing to woo a stranger by offering them something like a drink or a meal. What if, however, the stranger ended up buying a … Read More

Apply Every Social Technique Ever

“How do I know when to apply a particular technique?” One of my 1-on-1 Monthly Coaching students asked me this question last week. And it’s not uncommon. When someone first starts practicing social skills, they’re working on developing an awareness of social situations. They do this through testing out material and noting when something works and when something doesn’t. If they’re repeatedly hitting the same sticking … Read More

The Link Between Likeability And The Social Matrix

You’re here because you sense something. What you sense you can’t explain, but you feel it. You’ve felt as long as you can remember, some people have an advantage over everyone else. You don’t know exactly why, but it’s there, some force is at play. The force is likeability. Being a well-liked person opens doors and opportunities within the social … Read More

Passionate People Are Interesting People

One of the greatest moments you’ll have when studying attraction is this… You’ll approach someone you were initially intimidated by, you two will generate thoughtful conversation, and then you’ll hear some variation this sentence: “You’re one of the most interesting people I’ve met in years.” You might think that the great moment will be some feat of sexual whatever, but … Read More

Passionate Storytelling Tips

One of the greatest moments you’ll have when studying seduction is this… You’ll approach someone you were initially intimidated by, you two will generate thoughtful conversation, and then you’ll hear some variation this sentence:  “You’re one of the most interesting people I’ve met in years.” You might think that the great moment will be some feat of sexual whatever, but it’s … Read More

Stylelife Field Report – She Kiss Closed Me

  Today, I’m going to keep it brief. I simply want to share an awesome field report from a Stylelife student. It’s a great example of moving from opening to the first kiss using the lessons in the Stylelife program. =-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-= Field Report =-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=  I entered the bar scene with my trusty wing Zeus, who, much to his credit sends my value through the … Read More

Sexual Consent: What you should have learned in Health Class

What is Appropriate Sexual Consent? Rule 1: Only an enthusiastic yes means yes. Everything else is no. Consent means hearing the word “yes.” Silence isn’t consent. “Maybe” isn’t consent. “I guess so” isn’t consent and if you hear no, you stop whatever you are doing. Rule 2: Permission is non-negotiable. Getting permission to do one thing doesn’t mean you have … Read More

Introducing Stylelife Girl: April O’neil

This time, The Sneak spoke to April, a popular model, performer, and unrepentant geek. She was born in Phoenix, Arizona and has lived in Los Angeles, California since 2007. Her passion for the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and Dr. Who is well-documented and a driving creative force in her life. Stylelife: What’s the most common way that a guy hits … Read More

Introducing Stylelife Girl: Christina

In this installment, our boot camp coach extraordinaire Evolve spoke to Christina about interacting with female bartenders, about dream dates, and stories of oral sex gone terribly wrong.Christina is a Chicago native who met Evolve and The Sneak during their world tour travels. She’s been working in the bar and club industry since she was 18-years-old. Stylelife: So you’re currently … Read More