Your Personal Approach Anxiety Remedy

A few days ago I was meeting with a friend who was dealing with some seriously bad approach  anxiety. I wanted to know what he’d done to try and solve this problem. He said, he’d tried the three–second–rule, but it wasn’t working for him. I asked him exactly how he felt when he wanted to approach, and it turns out that the step itself … Read More

The Ben Franklin Effect

There’s an old maxim saying, “He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another, than he whom you yourself have obliged.” Last email, In our exploration of Reciprocation, we imagined a person failing to woo a stranger by offering them something like a drink or a meal. What if, however, the stranger ended up buying a drink … Read More

The Best Way To Apply Every Social Technique Ever

“How do I know when to apply a particular technique?” One of my 1-on-1 Monthly Coaching students asked me this question last week. And it’s not uncommon. When someone first starts practicing social skills, they’re working on developing an awareness of social situations. They do this through testing out material and noting when something works and when something doesn’t. If they’re repeatedly hitting the same sticking … Read More

Why You’re Not Getting Attraction

Are You Really Practicing Social Skills? Today we want to you answer these four questions that will help you with your practice. Is your practice unfocused? Communication is a skill. Like any skill-set, there are drills and techniques that help you learn the universal principles of the art form. One of the most common pitfalls students run into is practicing without a focus on … Read More

Breaking Down A Night As A Wingman

How A Great Wingman Will Break it Down: A few weeks ago, I was out with my friend Alex. He is a single, well put together, and is a practiced conversationalist. Since I’m in a relationship, I’ll be his wingman for the night. I thought it might be helpful to lay out some of the moments from the night, regarding … Read More

The Link Between Likeability And The Social Matrix

You’re here because you sense something. What you sense you can’t explain, but you feel it. You’ve felt as long as you can remember, some people have an advantage over everyone else. You don’t know exactly why, but it’s there, some force is at play. The force is likeability. Being a well-liked person opens doors and opportunities within the social … Read More

2 Things That Make You Look Extra Attractive

As you know, your clothes speak volumes, because what you wear is an extension of your identity, and that affects your personal attractiveness to the opposite sex. The right outfit can have people coming up to you without a word and engaging in conversations. It’s almost like magic. For those of us in the northern hemisphere, the winter weather is … Read More

Passionate People Are Interesting People

One of the greatest moments you’ll have when studying attraction is this… You’ll approach someone you were initially intimidated by, you two will generate thoughtful conversation, and then you’ll hear some variation this sentence: “You’re one of the most interesting people I’ve met in years.” You might think that the great moment will be some feat of sexual whatever, but … Read More

Passionate Storytelling Tips

One of the greatest moments you’ll have when studying seduction is this… You’ll approach someone you were initially intimidated by, you two will generate thoughtful conversation, and then you’ll hear some variation this sentence:  “You’re one of the most interesting people I’ve met in years.” You might think that the great moment will be some feat of sexual whatever, but it’s … Read More

The Jealous Girlfriend Opener

The Jealous Girlfriend opener is one of the first openers that most people test out after first reading the Game by Neil Strauss. Behind every opener or conversation starter, there is a principle. It holds true whether you know what you’re doing or not. It holds true whether you’re a guy or a gal, gay or straight, or whether it’s … Read More