Social Intelligence Cheat Sheet

People are always asking for a quick way to remember the steps of Social Dynamics for landing a date or meeting up with someone again. So we put it together into its shortest and most potent form: a cheat sheet for you to print. This is priceless if you’re new to social intelligence training, but even if you are advanced … Read More

The Science of a First Kiss

Attraction is Scientifically Based and Facilitated: A Multi-Part Series Exploring the Connections Between the Lab and the Real World Understanding the science behind attracting women is great. In fact, it’s where you need to begin when it comes to meeting women. However, you want to meet more women because you’re looking for something more than just good conversation. It is … Read More

Avoid These 4 Mindsets to Improve Your Social Success

You know how there is that break-up cliche that says, “It’s not you, it’s me”? Most of the time, that’s nonsense. But in some instances with dating, the problem is, indeed you. If you’re not getting the social results you want, examine your mindset and attitudes to see if you’re falling into any of these 4 negative frames of references. … Read More

Debate: Is it a Good Idea to Delete Your Dating Apps?

Our recent article detailing 4 Reasons to Delete Your Dating Apps generated a huge amount of email commentary. Some readers agreed with the advice. Others, not so much. Healthy, constructive debate is always a good thing at Stylelife. During our upcoming seduction master class, Style will tell students over and over again that we’re not concerned with dogma, with marking … Read More

How to Get to Know Someone Better: Themes for Conversational Flexibility

Some socially intelligent people prefer to think more in terms of “themes” than routines as that provides a tremendous amount of conversational flexibility. Thing is, many people talk about themes that don’t hold value for the particular person or people they’re speaking with. Let’s use a conversation about relationships – an all-time favorite social topic. Let’s say you’re the conversation … Read More

How to Make People Comfortable, Part 2

If you read our previous post on making people comfortable, you saw a lot of very simple ways that you can instantly make people — men, women, whoever — comfortable around you. Hopefully you tried them the next time you were socializing. That’s good. Even guys who’ve been around the block a few times can find little things that they’re … Read More

How to Make People Comfortable, Part 1

6 Ways to Increase Comfort and Acceptance in the People You Meet If you can’t make people comfortable to be around you, you’re not going to attract women and you’re not going to make friends. Making people comfortable in your presence is the first step toward the process of attraction, whether you’re talking to the most beautiful girl at the … Read More

Accessorize to Impress Her Eyes

When developing your personal sense of style and fashion, you should not overlook the value of accessories. These are the last items you should be putting on when dressing yourself, accessories. My strict interpretations of accessories for the purpose of this article will be any item that goes on your wrist, neck, fingers or waist… I’m going to assume that … Read More

Peacocking Versus Being Fashionable

Peacock is a verb defined as, “to dress in loud clothing or with flashy accoutrements in order to get attention from women.” This concept excites novice social artists who have in the past repressed the desire to stand out. The travesty is that some social artists never make the transition from peacock to a more inner-defined style. The wearing of … Read More

Live in a Dump? It Doesn't Have to Hinder Your Social Life

My Job, Car, & Home All Suck: How to Be Proud, High Value, and Attract Women, Even When Times are Tough Part 3 of a 3 Installment Series A lot of people blame their lack of social success on some aspect of their life. In this series, we’ve covered all the bases. In our first installment, we looked at what … Read More