One of the greatest moments you’ll have when studying attraction is this…
You’ll approach someone you were initially intimidated by, you two will generate thoughtful conversation, and then you’ll hear some variation this sentence:
“You’re one of the most interesting people I’ve met in years.”
You might think that the great moment will be some feat of sexual whatever, but it’s not. It’s the moment when someone recognizes you for who you are – an interesting person.
What makes you interesting?
Passion for your life. Now, that might sound pretty vague, and it is.
But let’s be honest, when someone is passionate about something, and they’re able to convey it – you could probably sit and listen to them for quite a while.
Just think of TED talk speakers. Here’s one on Ethnography, a topic that most of you never really thought about listening to a lecture on:
If this guy can make you become interested in Ethnography for 20 minutes, do you think you could learn how to capture someone else’s attention on a topic that you are really passionate about?
You can. The question is how.
So, how do you convey your interests in the best way possible?
By sharing your unique perspective of the things you love, through storytelling. The more capable you are of expressing that perspective, the more interesting you’ll be.
Here are a few things you can do to develop those stories:
Leave out the technical jargon and insert memories, lessons, and moments.
Technical stuff is for people who are passionate about the exact same thing as you. For example, engineering jargon might be interesting to another engineer, but not to someone who has no education in the science. What is interesting to most people is that as engineers you may be building something that will outlive us all and become a part of history.
Tell a story without reciting history. A good story doesn’t need to involve every fact, every contradiction, and every moment of confusion that exists in our personal histories. They only need the facts that are relevant to the story you’re telling.
Make sure your stories have a beginning, middle, and end. Might seem obvious, but we all have a friend who can’t finish a story, or doesn’t know why he’s telling it.
Think about what your story conveys. Every story contains some fragments of who you are. Think about what your story says about you and decided if you want to change the way you tell it to enhance it (if you missed it, I went deeper on storytelling in last week’s email).