If I told you a technique for exchanging phone numbers that could instantly reveal whether they’d show up for a date — how much would it be worth to you?
Well, how about I just give it to you?
If you want to learn it, then read on.
The biggest mistake most people make when they’re setting up dates is exchanging contact info before setting up a date.
Phone numbers aren’t always given out because someone is interested in another person.
Sometimes people give them out as a polite form of rejection. In this case, the person who receives the new number might try to set up a date, not knowing that the number was meaningless when it was given out.
Students on the path to mastering the social matrix should try this instead: Set up a date, and then trade contact info.
A situation like this will play out differently:
If the person trying to set up the date recommends an interesting place and invites the other person to come along, they know right then and there whether that person is interested, because there are essentially only three categories of responses and all of them show you where that person stands when it comes to meeting up again:
The person can accept, saying something like, “Sure” or “Yeah, that sounds great.”
If this happens, simply exchange phone numbers.
The person can reschedule by saying something like, “I’m working that night, but I’m free Friday.”
This is good; people will go out of their way to hang out with someone they’re interested in.
If the person is letting you know their schedule, they’re going out of their way to make sure you can hang out.
Pick a day, and exchange phone numbers.
Lastly, the person can reject you by saying something like, “I’m busy” or “I’m working that night.”
If this happens, you’re going to have to go back and work on being more conversationally attractive.
Once the other person gives you their number, don’t immediately leave.
You don’t want it to feel like the whole reason you were there was to get a phone number.
Hang out, keep the conversation going, leave when it comes to a natural end.
Then go home, login to the Stylelife Academy, and use our material to plan a date you’ll both love.