The Secret to Giving Good Compliments

Last week, I was at a party with an old friend of mine: a photographer who’s always traveling, charming everyone he meets, and having adventurous sexual encounters with women from all over the world. My photographer friend had just spent a weekend going on romantic adventures, all over Spain, with a model he’d been shooting. What I loved about his … Read More

Aliens and Openers

It’s been a few weeks since I returned from a trip with Neil and a few of his friends from The Society. During our journey through the southwest, the guys role-played that they were part of a clandestine organization that dealt with uncovering alien invaders — an organization called S.M.I.L.E. Each person on the trip received a box of personalized S.M.I.L.E. business cards and a mission: Get … Read More

The Canned Material Controversy

It might surprise you, but everyone, everyday, uses canned material. Most people just aren’t aware of it. People who preach an entirely improvised style tend to stick to the most common conversational threads in the world — they are, ironically, entirely predictable. For example: “Hi,” is the most common opener in the world with common canned follow-up questions like, “Where are you from?” “What’s your … Read More

Scripted Material and Authenticity In Social Situations

Recently Neil has been stressing the importance of core values, or what we refer to as your Inner Game. The new Stylelife teaches these core values that can radically change all aspects of your life and make you a much more attractive person to others. He has even challenged all of us here at Stylelife to discuss our personal core … Read More

So Easy My Mother Could Do It

So, my mother has been asking random strangers whether they floss before they brush. Like dozens of them. And so far, no one has “busted” her on it, even though this opener has been all over television, in books, and on the Internet. It’s funny because she really wants to know the answer. She’s been asking waitresses, neighbors, and even … Read More

Powerful Answers For Tricky Questions (ex: “Why are you still single?”)

Recently, a couple of my students were thrown off balance when a woman asked them, “Why are you still single?” Here’s a process to create the perfect answer that answers not only that question but any questions you encounter that feel tricky to navigate. 1. When you get home, think about how you answered that question when you were in field. … Read More

Humor and Seduction: Quick Tips

Ask any woman you meet to name qualities she looks for in a potential mate and she’ll almost always mention sense of humor. Sense of humor, however, is not well defined. What does it mean to have a good sense of humor, specifically, when it comes to dating? What should any student of seduction know when it comes to joking … Read More

Scarcity & The Social Matrix

It’s time to let go. Self-doubt. Disbelief. These are self-imposed shackles on your mind. They inhibit your potential. You will not succeed at pretending to be a high-value person. You must truly know you are one. Getting stuck in a halfway place, trying hard to make it work, but not truly believing leads to disaster.  You don’t value your own time. … Read More

Likeability & The Social Matrix

You’re here because you sense something. What you sense you can’t explain, but you feel it. You’ve felt as long as you can remember, some people have an advantage over everyone else. You don’t know exactly why, but it’s there, some force is at play. The force is likeability.  Being a well-liked person opens doors and opportunities within the social matrix. Let’s explore 3 ways you … Read More

Authority & The Social Matrix

I don’t know if you’re ready to see what I want to show you. When faced with it, your mind will send you in one of two directions. You deny it. That’s that. You believe what you want to believe and life goes on as it has before. Or, you process it and dive deeper than ever into your understanding of the Social Matrix. … Read More