The Power of Reciprocation

If you’ve ever consumed a free sample, and then purchased the product, you’ve experienced the power of reciprocation first hand. If you give someone something, then they are inclined to give back. It’s unavoidable; human nature. So how does reciprocation apply to the social matrix? There are times that gifts are appropriate in a relationship. Countless friendships and romances included … Read More

The Key to Social Proof

To explore how social proof works within the social matrix, think back to high school and ponder, why were the popular kids popular? Why were the nerdy kids outcasts? The truth is: it was all just made up. Kids based their opinions off of things they heard from other kids, from TV, from parents, and from all sorts of other … Read More

How To Gamify Your Social Skills

Growing up, I was obsessed with Spy novels; John La Carre and Ian Fleming were among my favorites authors. So, when Neil asked me to come up with some spy-like social games for one of his Society Intensives, I couldn’t have been more excited. Today, I want to share one of those games with you as an example of something you could go out … Read More

Apply Every Social Technique Ever

“How do I know when to apply a particular technique?” One of my 1-on-1 Monthly Coaching students asked me this question last week. And it’s not uncommon. When someone first starts practicing social skills, they’re working on developing an awareness of social situations. They do this through testing out material and noting when something works and when something doesn’t. If they’re repeatedly hitting the same sticking … Read More

The Secret to Giving Meaningful Compliments

Last week, I was at a party with an old friend of mine: a photographer who’s always traveling, charming everyone he meets, and having adventurous sexual encounters with women from all over the world. My photographer friend had just spent a weekend going on romantic adventures, all over Spain, with a model he’d been shooting. What I loved about his … Read More

The Canned Material Controversy

It might surprise you, but everyone, everyday, uses canned material. Most people just aren’t aware of it. People who preach an entirely improvised style tend to stick to the most common conversational threads in the world — they are, ironically, entirely predictable. For example: “Hi,” is the most common opener in the world with common canned follow-up questions like, “Where are you from?” “What’s your … Read More

Scripted Material and Authenticity In Social Situations

Recently, Neil has been stressing the importance of core values, or what we refer to as your Inner Game. The new Stylelife teaches these core values that can radically change all aspects of your life and make you a much more attractive person to others. He has even challenged all of us here at Stylelife to discuss our personal core … Read More

How To Troubleshoot You Sticking Points

Ready to troubleshoot your social intelligence skills? Here are some tips… 1. Learn to Learn. The most important skill you can have, in the social intelligence and in life, is to know how to learn. If you are going out every day and doing the same thing over and over, just hoping one day that it will start working, then … Read More

Unlock Your Critical Mind For More Confidence

What if I gave you a technique to free yourself from the part of your mind that holds you back when you practice? Would you try it? You should… Sometimes plain old dating advice is not enough.  You need to dig deeper. Mastering your Social Intelligence can be a painful journey; one that requires facing rejection. If you don’t bother to master … Read More

Knowing Your City Can Change Your Dating Life

What do you know about the world around you? It could be your biggest advantage in the dating game. Students on the path to mastering the social intelligence must know their environment. The better an understanding you have, the easier it will be to set up dates, meetings, and events that your dates might be interested in. • Get to … Read More