Attracting Women: Your 5 Year Plan

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When Neil Strauss wrote the book The Game, he didn’t have any idea where it would lead.

Imagine if he’d had a detailed plan of action for attracting women

It’s time to make yours:

Have you ever heard the story of how Tony Robbins and his team changed the way riflemen trained in the US Army?

To pass as a Marksman, you had to hit a target 30 times out of 45. For new recruits, this could take as long as 27-30 hours of training.

The numbers had pretty much stayed the same for as long as the army could remember. That was how long people took to improve.

When Tony and his team of NLP experts came in to train them, they broke down the process that the best marksmen were using when they lined up a shot piece by piece in order to try to find the key components of a direct hit.

As they interviewed all the top marksmen, they discovered that there was a common thread among the best shooters: they narrowed their focus on the target to the point where they could picture the target closer than it really was.

So how do you get new riflemen to “see” a target up close if it’s so far away?

They had to bring the target closer.

Tony and his team made the marksmen start with the targets positioned much closer to them than they ever had before. It almost seemed too easy.

However, as they learned to see a target up close and hit it where they desired, they would move the target back a bit further. This allowed them to still “see” the target up close, yet hit it at further and further distances.

As they moved it back more and more the marksmen were still able to hit their target.

The result?

Average time for graduate their marksmen went down to 12 hours.

Down from 27-30 hours, that’s more than double the efficiency of the old way of doing things. All from seeing your target up close.

Would you like to double your effectiveness in life? Double your success in dating? Improve yourself in half the time?

How does this relate to attracting women in your life?

Let’s take a look at your personal targets.

How do you see your life five years from now?

This question comes from one of the earliest inner game missions in the Stylelife Academy.

The mission is called The-Five-Year-Plan. It’s a mission designed to give people something to shoot for: targets for all the areas of your life.

And especially your goals for attracting women.

This week I want you to take a fresh look at your five-year-plan in as much detail as possible.

If you’ve never done it before, take out a pen and paper and focus on it for a few minutes. We’re going to get up close and personal with our targets in life.

Your five-year-plan is revealing, and filling it out will help you get a better understanding of yourself, your goals, and what you’re doing to reach them.

As you’ll see, a five-year-plan can will be the most important self-improvement work you can do for yourself.

Let’s do it now.

Please write down answers to the following questions:


When you imagine yourself five years from now…

How do you look?

Who do you associate with?

What skills do you have that you didn’t before?

What does your career look like?

How do you imagine your love and sex life?

Now ask yourself:

What are you doing reach these goals?

What is the first step you could take towards achieving each of these outcomes?

And finally, a few added INNER GAME questions:

Why did you set the goals that you set?

What do your goals reveal about you?

Do they show you where you feel vulnerable?

Do they reveal possible insecurities?

Are any of your goals coming from a negative place?

If so – where is the negativity coming from?

And that’s it… You’re done.

Remember to take your time with these questions.

Once you’ve finished take a moment to look over your answers and ask yourself one final question:

Were you honest with yourself?

If you answered no, where do you need to be more honest with yourself?

When I started creating plans for my life, whether they started out as 5 minutes, 5 hours, or 5 years, they made a huge difference.

When you see your target clearly, nothing gets in your way of hitting it.

If you goal is to be attracting more women than ever before in your life, then know what that means to you in as much detail as possible.

It’s time to stop going through life without a target and firing blindly.

Do your Five-Year-Plan and see the world with new eyes.

It’s time to hit your target.

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