How To Track Your Progress In Social Interactions

This past year, I’ve been more into fitness than ever before in my life. I love the feeling of incremental successes. Of slowly, gaining strength and endurance; being able to lift one more pound of weight or shaving one second off my mile. I keep track of everything. Every workout documented, regular checkups from the doctor, and a strict diet. … Read More

Don’t Forget The Ending: Identity Storytelling Tips

Have you ever said to someone, “Oh yeah, I love that movie. It was awesome.” And that was it? After that short explanation, you stopped. Did you know that every time you respond like that you’re wasting a potential opportunity for a an emotional connection? A response to a topic as basic as movie preference is a fantastic place in … Read More

Don’t Be that person: Be Confident, Not Arrogant

Have you ever had a friend who ruined a perfectly good conversation by being overly arrogant? Or worse: Have you ever been that person? You know, the one who suddenly makes an outrageous, cocky or totally awkward comment that leaves everyone wide-eyed.Then the people you’ve been talking to give each other that look, make an excuse, and walk away, never to … Read More

Sexual Consent: What you should have learned in Health Class

What is Appropriate Sexual Consent? Rule 1: Only an enthusiastic yes means yes. Everything else is no. Consent means hearing the word “yes.” Silence isn’t consent. “Maybe” isn’t consent. “I guess so” isn’t consent and if you hear no, you stop whatever you are doing. Rule 2: Permission is non-negotiable. Getting permission to do one thing doesn’t mean you have … Read More

Dig Up Your Own Dirt

In interviews, journalists frequently ask me why I chose to work with this celebrity or that musician. The fact is that I’ve received scores more offers to ghost-write books than I’ve accepted. Many of these offers have been from artists and celebrities I greatly admired. And my decision to work with someone has usually come down to one question: Are … Read More

Heroic Mindset: Become a Hero

As coaches we hear the same tale time and time again. Maybe she was a friend of yours in school, but you secretly desired her as more than a friend. Perhaps she is a lady you once took on a date, that went well, but you never pulled the trigger. She is a woman of a thousand faces, but one part of … Read More

Crappy Car, Awful Job, Great Social Skills

Have you ever wondered if it’s possible to attract romantic partners if you don’t have much money? It certainly is. Let’s examine some of the most common worries one at a time: IF YOU THINK YOUR JOB SUCKS Every job in this world serves an important purpose. In my life, before I taught seduction, I cleaned toilets. It’s not glamorous, but if nobody had that … Read More

The Beast: Approach Anxiety

The beast known as Approach Anxiety rears it’s ugly head so often that entire techniques are devoted to try and destroy it. The most famous technique is the “Three-second rule.”  A technique where you approach a set within 3 seconds of seeing them. By rushing yourself, you don’t give yourself time to fall into the trap of overthinking. However, this … Read More

Unlock Your Critical Mind

What if I gave you a technique to free yourself from the part of you mind that holds you back when you practice? Would you try it? Mastering the Social Matrix can be a painful journey; one that requires facing rejection. Each rejection holds the possibility of sending you spiraling into self-doubt; causing you to quit practicing.  For most of … Read More

Humor and Attractiveness: Quick Tips

Ask anyone you meet to name qualities they looks for in a potential date and they’ll almost always mention sense of humor. Sense of humor, however, is not well defined. What does it mean to have a good sense of humor, specifically, when it comes to dating and socializing? What should any you know when it comes to joking around? … Read More