How To Gamify Your Social Skills

Growing up, I was obsessed with Spy novels; John La Carre and Ian Fleming were among my favorites authors. So, when Neil asked me to come up with some spy-like social games for one of his Society Intensives, I couldn’t have been more excited. Today, I want to share one of those games with you as an example of something you could go out … Read More

Aliens and Openers

It’s been a few weeks since I returned from a trip with Neil and a few of his friends from The Society. During our journey through the southwest, the guys role-played that they were part of a clandestine organization that dealt with uncovering alien invaders — an organization called S.M.I.L.E. Each person on the trip received a box of personalized … Read More

How To Troubleshoot You Sticking Points

Ready to troubleshoot your social intelligence skills? Here are some tips… 1. Learn to Learn. The most important skill you can have, in the social intelligence and in life, is to know how to learn. If you are going out every day and doing the same thing over and over, just hoping one day that it will start working, then … Read More

How To Find A Great Wingman

THE POWER OF A GREAT WINGMAN Do you ever feel like you need a friend? A partner? Are you more motivated in a team? Do you enjoy buddy cop movies? Nothing can motivate you to up your Game like an excellent wingman. In the early days of the Game, we not only had a wingman, we had a whole team … Read More

Don’t Forget The Ending: Identity Storytelling Tips

Have you ever said to someone, “Oh yeah, I love that movie. It was awesome.” And that was it? After that short explanation, you stopped. Did you know that every time you respond like that you’re wasting a potential opportunity for a an emotional connection? A response to a topic as basic as movie preference is a fantastic place in … Read More

There Is No Such Thing As Day Game

When it comes to how to attract women, there is a lot of bad information out there. Today, I’d like to shed some light on two topics that come up regularly with students: 1. Approach Anxiety To deal with approach anxiety, try giving yourself a plan for the night. It’s one of the best practices you can put into effect. … Read More

Neil Strauss – The Game Has Changed

Letter to the PUA Community From The Desk of Neil Strauss Malibu, California Thursday January 28, 2016 From The Desk of Neil Strauss, Almost ten years ago, after reading The Game: Penetrating The Secret Society of Pickup Artists, a brilliant programmer living in San Francisco contacted me and asked if I was interested in helping people who’d read the book. … Read More

Dig Up Your Own Dirt

In interviews, journalists frequently ask me why I chose to work with this celebrity or that musician. The fact is that I’ve received scores more offers to ghost-write books than I’ve accepted. Many of these offers have been from artists and celebrities I greatly admired. And my decision to work with someone has usually come down to one question: Are … Read More

So Easy My Mother Could Do It

So, my mother has been asking random strangers whether they floss before they brush. Like dozens of them. And so far, no one has “busted” her on it, even though this opener has been all over television, in books, and on the Internet. It’s funny because she really wants to know the answer. She’s been asking waitresses, neighbors, and even … Read More

Be The Storyteller: Making Words Your Stock and Trade

I was flipping channels late one night and came across one of the most useful movies you can watch to improve your storytelling skills. And not just that, this classic old movie will help you realize that so many of the qualities you used to hide are actually the traits you should emphasize. Those traits will establish you as “the … Read More