Aliens and Openers

It’s been a few weeks since I returned from a trip with Neil and a few of his friends from The Society. During our journey through the southwest, the guys role-played that they were part of a clandestine organization that dealt with uncovering alien invaders — an organization called S.M.I.L.E. Each person on the trip received a box of personalized S.M.I.L.E. business cards and a mission: Get … Read More

What To Do After The Opener

The principle behind starting a conversation is to make the group comfortable, but once they’re comfortable, what comes next? The answer is simple – ask a question or make an observation. It’s called bridging, and it’s a skill that anyone working on improving their social skills should be comfortable with. The Bridge Technique: A bridge is a way to propel … Read More

So Easy My Mother Could Do It

So, my mother has been asking random strangers whether they floss before they brush. Like dozens of them. And so far, no one has “busted” her on it, even though this opener has been all over television, in books, and on the Internet. It’s funny because she really wants to know the answer. She’s been asking waitresses, neighbors, and even … Read More

How to Polish Your Cold Approaches and Start Comfortable Conversations

The first step in a starting a conversation is opening. To do that we use openers, techniques that allow us to start a comfortable conversation with a person or group. With practice, openers are a fantastic tool for starting a conversation. The openers we teach at Stylelife are designed to do four things: Arouse curiosity – they’re more interesting than … Read More

Perfecting Your Practice: Four Mistakes Every Student Makes

Practicing without focus. Seduction is a skill. Like any skill-set there are drills and techniques that help you learn the universal principles of the art form. One of the most common bad situations guys run into to us unfocused practice. Learning any skill is a step-by-step process, you can’t learn it all in one night. Choose some material you like … Read More

Rescuing Canned Material

The Old Standbys are Successful for a Reason It’s the same old story, but I don’t want to be rude. So I let the guy continue. “I don’t wanna use canned material,” he says. Then he trots out the usual justifications. It just doesn’t feel right. It’s not his style. It won’t work because it won’t be congruent. He wants … Read More

Using Fashion to Start Conversations with Women

The bottom line with fashion is that women love it. Get them talking about fashion and you will spark a conversation that excites them and allows you the opportunity to DHV. There are countless options for using fashion, both yours and theirs, as openers. If you want women to open you for being stylish then basic dress sense is a … Read More

Root and Deliver

A Quick Way to Overhaul Your Openers Aspiring social artists are often consumed by the idea of collecting openers. People want day game openers, night game openers, club open- ers, bar openers, lounge openers, concert open- ers, and just about any other type of opener ever conceived. The truth is you don’t need a book full of openers for every … Read More

Approaching Women During Winter Weather

It’s that time again when the snow starts falling, the wind starts blowing, and the chill starts creeping in. Winter time is quickly swinging by but this doesn’t mean that your endless nights of social fun must end. In fact the winter season is a great time to go out and meet your next significant other. You will find a … Read More

Stay One Step Ahead

As soon as you approach a woman or group of people you don’t know, they think two things: 1) What does he want? 2) How long is he going to stay here? If you can satisfactorily answer both of these questions, you can avoid the sting of rejection. If not, you will hear the words that are the anathema of … Read More