Your Personal Approach Anxiety Remedy

A few days ago I was meeting with a friend who was dealing with some seriously bad approach  anxiety. I wanted to know what he’d done to try and solve this problem. He said, he’d tried the three–second–rule, but it wasn’t working for him. I asked him exactly how he felt when he wanted to approach, and it turns out that the step itself … Read More

The Four Step Method

I want to teach you four basic steps to keep yourself focused when you’re out practicing. It’s a variation on the larger method taught by Neil that Jay and I developed for quick reference at bootcamps. Neil was excited to have us share it with you. The goal is to break down your interactions into small steps that you can easily remember, with the principle … Read More

Apply Every Social Technique Ever

“How do I know when to apply a particular technique?” One of my 1-on-1 Monthly Coaching students asked me this question last week. And it’s not uncommon. When someone first starts practicing social skills, they’re working on developing an awareness of social situations. They do this through testing out material and noting when something works and when something doesn’t. If they’re repeatedly hitting the same sticking … Read More

Breaking Down A Night As A Wingman

A few weeks ago, I was out with my friend Alex. He is a single, well put together, and is a practiced conversationalist. Since I’m in a relationship, I’ll be his wingman for the night. I thought it might be helpful to lay out some of the moments from the night, regarding wingmanship. In this story, I’m out with a … Read More

The Link Between Likeability And The Social Matrix

You’re here because you sense something. What you sense you can’t explain, but you feel it. You’ve felt as long as you can remember, some people have an advantage over everyone else. You don’t know exactly why, but it’s there, some force is at play. The force is likeability. Being a well-liked person opens doors and opportunities within the social … Read More

Scripted Material and Authenticity In Social Situations

Recently, Neil has been stressing the importance of core values, or what we refer to as your Inner Game. The new Stylelife teaches these core values that can radically change all aspects of your life and make you a much more attractive person to others. He has even challenged all of us here at Stylelife to discuss our personal core … Read More

Two Value Building Items For Every Wardrobe

As you know, your clothes speak volumes, because what you wear is an extension of your identity, and that affects your personal attractiveness. The right outfit can have people coming up to you without a word and engaging in conversations. It’s almost like magic. For those of us in the northern hemisphere, the winter weather is still here, and in … Read More

Unlock Your Critical Mind For More Confidence

What if I gave you a technique to free yourself from the part of your mind that holds you back when you practice? Would you try it? You should… Sometimes plain old dating advice is not enough.  You need to dig deeper. Mastering your Social Intelligence can be a painful journey; one that requires facing rejection. If you don’t bother to master … Read More

There Is No Such Thing As Day Game

When it comes to how to attract women, there is a lot of bad information out there. Today, I’d like to shed some light on two topics that come up regularly with students: 1. Approach Anxiety To deal with approach anxiety, try giving yourself a plan for the night. It’s one of the best practices you can put into effect. … Read More

Stylelife Interview: Dash

Originally from the Midwest, Dash now lives in Southern California and balances an active career as an actress and model with her spiritual and meditation pursuits. Stylelife: Where did you grow up? Dash: ‪A small town in Illinois. Quincy. On the west border right on the Mississippi. ‬‬‪Mid state‬‬ area. If Illinois were a pregnant woman we’d be the belly … Read More