Your Personal Approach Anxiety Remedy

A few days ago I was meeting with a friend who was dealing with some seriously bad approach  anxiety. I wanted to know what he’d done to try and solve this problem. He said, he’d tried the three–second–rule, but it wasn’t working for him. I asked him exactly how he felt when he wanted to approach, and it turns out that the step itself … Read More

Should You Ask For A Threesome?

This is not a subject for the faint of heart. An intimate experience with two people at the same time is a fantasy for many. It’s something that Neil wrote a lot about in his book The Truth. But how do you know if someone is ready for that kind of experience? How can you be sure that they’re open … Read More

The Four Step Method

I want to teach you four basic steps to keep yourself focused when you’re out practicing. It’s a variation on the larger method taught by Neil that The Sneak and I developed for quick reference at bootcamps. Neil was excited to have us share it with you. The goal is to break down your interactions into small steps that you can easily remember, with … Read More

The Best Way To Apply Every Social Technique Ever

“How do I know when to apply a particular technique?” One of my 1-on-1 Monthly Coaching students asked me this question last week. And it’s not uncommon. When someone first starts practicing social skills, they’re working on developing an awareness of social situations. They do this through testing out material and noting when something works and when something doesn’t. If they’re repeatedly hitting the same sticking … Read More

Breaking Down A Night As A Wingman

How A Great Wingman Will Break it Down: A few weeks ago, I was out with my friend Alex. He is a single, well put together, and is a practiced conversationalist. Since I’m in a relationship, I’ll be his wingman for the night. I thought it might be helpful to lay out some of the moments from the night, regarding … Read More

The Link Between Likeability And The Social Matrix

You’re here because you sense something. What you sense you can’t explain, but you feel it. You’ve felt as long as you can remember, some people have an advantage over everyone else. You don’t know exactly why, but it’s there, some force is at play. The force is likeability. Being a well-liked person opens doors and opportunities within the social … Read More

Scripted Material and Authenticity In Social Situations

Recently Neil has been stressing the importance of core values, or what we refer to as your Inner Game. The new Stylelife teaches these core values that can radically change all aspects of your life and make you a much more attractive person to others. He has even challenged all of us here at Stylelife to discuss our personal core … Read More

2 Things That Make You Look Extra Attractive

As you know, your clothes speak volumes, because what you wear is an extension of your identity, and that affects your personal attractiveness to the opposite sex. The right outfit can have people coming up to you without a word and engaging in conversations. It’s almost like magic. For those of us in the northern hemisphere, the winter weather is … Read More

Unlock Your Critical Mind For More Confidence

What if I gave you a technique to free yourself from the part of your mind that holds you back when you practice? Would you try it? You should… Sometimes plain old dating advice is not enough.  You need to dig deeper. Mastering the Social Matrix can be a painful journey; one that requires facing rejection. If you don’t bother … Read More

DO YOU KNOW HOW TO SET UP A DATE?

If I told you a technique for exchanging phone numbers that could instantly reveal whether they’d show up for a date — how much would it be worth to you? Well, how about I just give it to you? If you want to learn it, then read on. The biggest mistake most people make when they’re setting up dates is … Read More